Why to talk about death at dinner

Bioethicist Craig Klugman describes his research on advance health care directives

Documents like advance health care directives can help families plan for and share their wishes for end-of-life care, says bioethicist Craig Klugman of DePaul’s College of Science and Health. (Image by iStock)
CHICAGO — Death is not a topic people usually bring up at the dinner table, but it should be, says medical anthropologist and bioethicist Craig Klugman. Talking about death, and one’s wishes for end-of-life care, can help families make better, more informed decisions. April 16 is National Healthcare Decision Day, a day of awareness about planning for and talking about these issues. 

An important part of planning is creating an advance health care directive — a document that lays out a person’s wishes about end-of-life care, says Klugman. In this Q&A, Klugman explains why these documents are not just for the elderly, and he warns about the drama that can follow when a family member’s wishes are unknown.

Q. What are advance health care directives, and why did you decide to research them?

A. An advance health care directive is a set of documents that appoint a person to make your decisions when you no longer can and also explain what medical care you do and do not want at the end of life.

I became interested in these topics because of my family. My father was an estate attorney and my mom was a nurse, so questions of life and death were dinner table conversation growing up. I remember my father talking about writing advance directives for his clients and talking about what he would want if facing the end of his life. I was very young when my grandparents died. I can remember being a teenager when my grandmother had a feeding tube while she was actively dying, and my father talking to the hospital administrator about removing the tube so that she could pass peacefully. I thought that it was great for my grandparents to have such strong advocates making sure their wishes were followed. My life’s work has been about helping others be able to make their own decisions and to advocate for themselves in similar circumstances.

Q. Many people might think that advance directives are only for elderly or terminally ill people who wish to avoid medical intervention at the end of their lives. What other demographics and motivations have you uncovered in your research?

A. When portrayed on television and in the movies, we see images of older people drafting and using these documents when they are dying. And yes, these documents are important for them. But consider the person under age 45 who is most likely to die suddenly and unexpectedly from accidents, murders and violence. That person is unlikely to be prepared, but his or her family still has to make the same decisions. We think of dying as something that happens in old age, but death often finds those who are young and unprepared. 

 We know nationally that about a quarter of adults have completed advance directives. People over 50 are most likely to refuse sustaining treatments like resuscitation, breathing machines and feeding tubes, while people under age 50 are more likely to request such measures. 

Q. You also found that people aren’t always telling their loved ones about their wishes, even once they have an advance directive. Why does that matter, and what sort of ethical dilemmas arise when these wishes aren’t shared?

A. This is one of the most interesting and problematic findings in my research. Of people with an advance directive, about a third give a copy of the documents to their physician, and even most of those patients never talk to their doctor about it. We assume that doctors will bring it up, but most doctors are reluctant because they think we don’t want to talk about death. The lesson is that we need to bring up the topic with our doctors and our families.

When you don’t share your wishes, you can cause all sorts of family drama. In my work as a clinical ethicist, I’ve seen families torn apart by not knowing what to do, not knowing if the decisions they make are the ones the patient wanted, or even worse, when different people in the family want to do different things. In some families, they never talk again because of these choices. We talk a lot about these documents being for having your own wishes followed, but more importantly, they are about giving your family a peace of mind that they are making a decision that you wanted. Studies show that families who talk about dying and who have these documents have an easier time grieving.

Q. What other unexpected discoveries have you found in your research on this issue?

prising finding is the large percentage of people who fill out an advance directive and request aggressive treatment at the end of life, such as a dialysis or a ventilator. I think there’s this assumption that anyone who completes this document is refusing care, but the reality is this is a statement of our wishes and many of us want aggressive treatment until the end. The lesson for health care providers is to actually read and discuss these documents because you can’t assume you know what they say. 

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Craig Klugman
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